Can jealousy be good for a relationship?

By Hayley Krischer, upwave

When I first met my (now) husband, Andy, he had a close female friend. I’ll call her Donna. Donna and Andy went to the movies together. They went out for dinner. They caught a baseball game with another couple — while I was out of town. I asked to meet Donna many times, but kept getting the runaround for one reason or another. “I think it’s weird that I haven’t met her yet, and I think she’s deciding if she’s in love with you,” I told Andy. He said I was crazy. That they were friends. “I know you might be ‘just friends’ with her,” I replied. “But I don’t think she’s ‘just friends’ with you.” Jealousy boiled up inside me.

As it turns out, I wasn’t wrong. When Andy and I had been together for a few months, he invited Donna to his birthday party so she could “finally” meet me. Not only did she not show up, but they never spoke again. Clearly, Donna wasn’t interested in having a platonic relationship with Andy. I’d had a reason to be jealous. Read more …